Tonight I had a thought to share an excerpt from my book (Thinking out Loud)...here's one article from Chapter 3 that seems to be a crowd pleaser...Hope you enjoy.
When do you know
when it is time to let go? Be it friendships, acquaintances or relationships,
some of us could do without the excess baggage at times - those people and
situations that add no real value or substance to our lives. In this life we
encounter all sorts of people and it’s ultimately up to us to realize who are
the ‘keepers’ and whom we should cut loose and when.
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Sometimes we
come across people that we know from day one will be lifelong friends. Others
are just there to serve a purpose along our journey, as we may learn an
important life lesson and then they’re gone. Yet others are a test of our
strength and discernment. For there are times when we meet people who we think
are genuine and whose company we enjoy, yet we gain nothing spiritually or
emotionally by having them around, for all they do is take up space and time in
our lives. And no matter how hard you try to force it, they are just not meant
to be there. There is no place for them in your life and most times they cause
more conflict than good.
Not to sound
like a cold-hearted person but life is like that sometimes. It’s like a young
seedling that is trying to grow and push up among the weeds. In order for that
sapling to grow into a strong, healthy plant, tree or flower it needs to break
free from the weeds which will eventually choke off its supply of sunlight, air
and nutrients needed. The same with people: sometimes you just need to break
free from unhealthy people who may not have your best interests at heart, who
may be envious, self-serving, opportunistic or just plain up to no good. Why
would you want to hang around weeds anyway?
Then
there are the others that are just coming along for the ride to keep you
company along your journey. They are neither here nor there. One day however
something may happen to test the friendship, and then you may discover if this
person was indeed a genuine friend. It doesn’t matter if several years go by,
the possibility exists that this person was just around for a season and served
their purpose in your life. And then there are those that give you support when
you need it and you give them support. Sometimes it’s fun having them around, but
what is more important is that you complement each other. No one is a burden to
the other.
Life is all about learning the lessons and helping one another along
the way. If you can find that in a friend then the journey becomes a little
easier. Then there comes a time for that friend to leave. Sometimes it is
voluntary sometimes involuntary. Circumstances brought you together and
circumstances cause you to separate. By that time or maybe years later you
would have learnt the lesson that friend brought to your life. If you have
indeed learnt the lesson, then that friendship had value and it served its
purpose.
Sometimes we
never know why individuals enter our lives, but it is important that we can
tell apart the true gems from the weeds and treat the former right, for good
people don’t come along everyday. The weeds we should recognize early on, so as
to eliminate the grief and make way for the people that matter most. If we
can’t do this, we would be forever spinning ourselves into a web with people
who are out to deceive us and bring us pain. It is important that we look
inside, so that the company we keep reflect our philosophies. I’m sure we all
have heard the saying when we were younger: “Show me your friends and I’ll show
you who you are.” It rings true not only for when you were a child but
encapsulates the purpose of friendships today and beyond.
“True friendship consists not in the multitude of
friends, but in their worth and value.” —Ben
Jonson (1572 – 1637)
Want to read more? Why not purchase your own copy at Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Thinking-Out-Loud-Carolyn-Correia/dp/1105184382
Or locally at all locations of RIK and Metropolitian Booksellers.
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