Sunday, October 20, 2013

What Do You Do When You Don't Have the Last Say?

photo credit - C. K. Correia All rights reserved
Alas it's parang season! For the seasoned visitors to my blog, you would know that I love Christmas and parang and you would also know what parang is....

For my new visitors, in Trinidad parang is Christmas music sung in Spanish...something we inherited from our Spanish ancestors. 

(We are a multi-ethnic melting pot of races and cultures with a rich heritage including African, Indian, Spanish, French, Portuguese, Chinese and more.) We also have our own variety of parang with a soca twist...called soca parang sung in English or sometimes Spanglish. 

Yup it's that special time of year...and I plan to savour every moment. I have been playing it in my car, at home and occasionally at the office since September...Christmas is near...Can you feel it? October is almost thru and soon it will be November...My! Where is the time going?

It's almost 1 a.m. and I have the munchies, so I decided to blog....Between trying to fight the urge to eat and avoid finishing clean my apartment at this hour, I have found solace in my laptop and reruns of Sex and the City, Old School and Made of Honour! Today is the odd day that I decided to stay in with all the rain and catch up on some good old tele. 

I have forgotten how good television and movies can be...sometimes it's all you need to distract yourself from reality. Have you ever tuned into your favourite show and been able to readily identify with the exact issues that are happening on screen?! It's kind of eerie but reassuring all at the same time. Film makers and script writers are truly a Godsent, blessed with a very creative and talented mind.

For the past few weeks I have also been catching up with the latest flicks on the big screen...Prisoners, Runner Runner and Baggage Claim. They have all lived up to my expectations. Haven't had much time for my movie blog for a long time, so I will give my ratings here....with the exception of Prisoners which gets 3 stars, Runner Runner and Baggage Claim gets 4 stars. 

The only reason that Prisoners didn't get a higher rating is because of the abrupt ending which left movie-goers in suspense and even irate! lol...It was hilarious to hear persons storm out of the movie theatre visibly and audibly upset. Which brings me to my point....do you ever wish you could find closure to a situation that ended abruptly in your life? 

Maybe you thought someone got the upper hand on you and left you wanting the last say...but you didn't. Perhaps years would go by and thoughts would still linger somewhere in your subconscious. 

What do you do to find closure?

  • Find closure in your own way. Inject humour into the situation and try to see the light side of it all. Sometimes when you change your perspective things aren't half as bad as you think it is.
  • After one time is two...and this too shall pass. Time is said to be the healer of all wounds and soon life catches up with you and this situation would mean little in the whole scheme of things.
  • No man is an island. When you socialize, you realize that other people share similar experiences as you. Soon your angst doesn't seem that bad anymore as you are able to identify and draw support and empathy from each another. You may even learn a thing or two...in the process harnessing real power!
  • Curb destructive thought patterns and find ways to distract yourself. Use activities to act as a placebo to replace your ill-feelings. Imagine a different outcome in your mind as a way of dealing with the situation and find the closure you need.

It's nearing that time though....Sleep is now calling my name, incidentally so is food...so I will succumb to the urge to nibble on something since I plan on sleeping in tomorrow. One of the joys of living on your own. Yes I'm weak when it comes to food! shhh! I will make it a healthy choice though;)

Until next time...

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