Trust: A matter of perspective

.......We need to be able to think on our own and draw our own conclusions. If things don’t go our way all the time, do we get upset and throw a temper tantrum? Or do we try to think objectively, weigh all the factors and try to figure out why things were handled the way they were? We need to open our minds and come out of our “glass cubicle” where the other person is always wrong. The world or rather the company is not out to get us unduly. Perhaps we should look at the glass half full instead of half empty. Are we giving 100%? At the end of the day, we need to make the decision of our level of commitment....(c)

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One more try...Is it worth it?

So you gave it one more try…. and where did that get you? Honestly how many of us say that, then we wind up disappointed and more miserable than we began? Some of us do this for a multitude of reasons but after a while you know our judgment must bound to get better. Time after time we tell ourselves that this is it…never us again then we get trapped with the same old feelings that maybe it can work this time. Maybe it’s for the children, maybe it’s for social appearances, maybe it’s pride or ego…not me! I can’t fail at this! But call it what you want…sooner or later we must see the light before it’s too late....

Nevertheless it didn’t work out this time around…so what next? Do you give up on love? Or do you dust yourself off in the hopes that you would find Mr./Ms. Right this time. Or do you reverse the cycle and rebound off your next victim? One thing’s for sure; you must find a way to heal your hurt. Whether it’s the real thing or just a sting. A tinge of jealousy, the feeling of betrayal or deceit… a case of unrequited love…. it all feels the same at the end of the day.

Do we think that somehow we brought this upon ourselves? Ridden with guilt and no place to go in a moment of weakness (we all have those at some point) we feel sorry for ourselves…we burden those around us with the memories and the thoughts of ‘what could have been’…and what we think should have been if, and only if…

Yeah whatever we say…we’re over it! But are we ever really? Even if it may seem that way on the surface (since some appear to mask it better than others who wear their heart on their sleeve) and it may seem that we have moved on, do we all (male and female) carry this hurt around with us in some way or another, wherever we go, buried in some small portion of our being…to be unleashed upon whomever we meet? And are we always on our guard, waiting for a reason for that suppressed hurt to spring out when we least expect? Sometimes the slightest thing may trigger it, or maybe it prevents us from giving of ourselves totally. Whatever the reality of our situation is, we have to face it. We can’t lie to ourselves forever…after all we are human. If it means talking to ourselves in the mirror, to a friend or to a stranger on the bus…we need to face reality and rid ourselves of our emotional “dead weight” that will only seek to drag us down and burden us, preventing us from living completely…sharing ourselves completely with that other person when the time arises.

Try it. Wake up and shake it off, clear yourself of the clutter and release. You will then see how drastic your relationships improve, romantic or otherwise. Trust is an amazing thing: it’s like a double-edged sword…it can either work for you or against you. The more you open up to your true self, is the greater your propensity to trust another and live freely on this earth without fear becomes. (c)

“You gotta wake up and live!”

– Robert Nesta Marley (1945 – 1981)

Only fitting that I feature one of my favourite artistes of ALL TIME....George Michael!!

Time after Time

...It is of the view that if everyone was made to get along all of the time, then we would have been all created similar and have the same thought patterns, capacities and experiences, but sometimes our diversity is a test of our tolerance and openness to the wonders of humankind. Maybe we should try to step back and view ourselves through a different lens and ask ourselves if we like the person we have become over the many years of experiencing joy, pain, love, hurt, pride and disappointment. What factors have led to us becoming the person we are today? And how do we let it influence our life and interactions with others?... (c)

Accept the challenge

At times we wonder if there is something more to life than the eight to four or nine to five. Have we found our true calling or are we still on our journey? Maybe sometimes we think that we have found it, but something may happen for us to doubt ourselves. How many of us truly can say we love what we do? How many of us know our true gifts and talents? This list maybe long or maybe we can’t seem to think of any at the moment but I’m sure some of our closest and dearest family and friends can tell us in one breath what is unique and special about us. This is something which we may overlook ourselves. Whether we can cook the best peleau or sew the best drapery to the envy of many of our houseguests. We are special creatures beyond imagination. We may be sitting on a goal mine and not know it. If we hone that skill or talent we may not have to work another day in our lives, as our job may not seem much like work at all...Today’s world calls for guts, for risk and creativity, passion and love. Many people may feel like they are just going through the motions waiting for that dream job or business opportunity to just fall into their laps. But sometimes we have to reach out and find it: make it happen...(c)

Nothing Lasts Forever

Nothing lasts forever…like children that grow up before the eyes of their parents; that ‘sweep me off my feet’ feeling of young love…the culmination of emotions at the yuletide season especially Christmas morning. These are all things that we wish could last forever but inevitably all good things must come to an end. Sometimes we wonder why did life have to change, these moments often pass by so quickly that maybe at the time we are not fully cognizant and appreciative of what is happening in our lives...Too many times we forget to savour the moments, we rush from one moment to the next without a second thought about what is happening in the present and before you know it that moment is gone. And the proverbial question remains: do we have control over our destiny? Many of us struggle with this eternal enigma. Is life laid out for us just to ‘live out’ or do we actively have a role to play in what happens at every stage? ...© To read more look out for the publication of a collection coming soon!

I think Doris Day said it best in her famous song: "Que Sera Sera."

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A little bit of me, a little bit of you

Why are we a different way around different people? Is it that you put your best foot forward with some and others just seem to get the bottom of the barrel? Is it that you regard some people in higher esteem than others, or that you just have different sides of your personality? Founder of analytical psychology, Carl Jung proposed that there are different types of personalities: extroverted and introverted and he suggests there are different ways of dealing with the world around us – inner and outer. Some of us are maybe afraid of unleashing all of our personality…the good, the bad and the ugly with people we are not that close to, in the fear of them judging us or maybe creating a false impression...(c)

Joie de vive

Ever wonder what little things you can do to make life smoother? I often wonder if there is anything to break the monotony of the rat race and everyday routines. Let’s face it, we all wish that Eve did not eat that apple those eons ago so we didn’t have to face the sometimes harsh realities of our everyday existence. People often make mountains out of molehills when often times if we complain less and make the most of what we have, our journey through life will be easier... (c)

His memory will live on

This post is a little late but better late than never...

The world over was devasted over the loss of a great musical star on June 25th...Michael Jackson. Despite the controversary that surrounded him during his lifetime there's no disputing the legacy he left behind...it was a sad, sad day in history...RIP MJ

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He would be remembered by many as a pop icon of all time who spoke to generations and his music will continue to traverse time. What the late great Michael Jackson (or MJ as he is commonly endeared by many) did in his lifetime with his artform, others can perhaps only strive for a brief fraction of such to dream to walk in his shadow. He paved the way for artistes of all genres, races and ages. He gave us all a gift: a gift of music, of entertainment, of humanity and generosity and lessons in abundance. Those of us that learnt the lessons have really appreciated what he was put on this earth to do. He did indeed say that he was put here for a purpose: “to entertain… and make people happy.” His music is what made him immortal and in his quest to “defeat death” as he said, he endeavoured to “bind” himself to his work (which he indeed did), and I am almost certain that his memory would live on in the consciousness of all those that had the opportunity to be a part of his history and generation of entertainment.


I for one remember where I was at almost every stage of his career, his songs and his theatrical music videos that etched out a special place in people’s memory. To witness his artistic magnificence was really magical and that feeling that he invigoured with his music will definitely inspire great emotions and sentiments in the minds and hearts of his fans for a long time to come. Although coined the King of Pop his music was unique. It was not quite like any other genre of music that ever existed. It was universal: it traversed boundaries and cultures, broke down barriers of ethnicity, geography, class, mindsets. Almost everyone could relate to his music on some level. He indeed left behind a legacy that may not be able to be so easily emulated. He was truly blessed with a gift and talent for music and inspired change for a better world and humanity. Whether this was achieved or not, is left up to us for the message is in the music to internalize and build upon the meanings imbued therein.

Michael was born to be a star and a star he was. Music will never be the same after him. With his words, rhythm and charisma he was able to reach people present and future spanning the globe. He was able to touch thousands or perhaps millions of lives with his brilliant collection of work, arousing emotions such as happiness, sadness, love, pride and more. He was truly amazing and a tough act to follow. May his soul rest in peace and may he find true and sublime happiness henceforth.

“If you enter this world knowing you are loved and you leave this world knowing the same, then everything that happens in between can be dealt with.”

– Michael Jackson (1958-2009)

Should I go or should I stay?

When do you know when it is time to let go? Be it friendships, acquaintances or relationships some of us could do without the excess baggage at times…those people and situations that add no real value or substance to our lives.

In this life we encounter all sorts of people and it is for us to realize who are the keepers and who we should cut loose and when. Sometimes we come across people that you know from day one will be lifelong friends, others are just there to serve a purpose or for us to learn an important life lesson and then they’re gone, yet others are a test of our strength and discernment. For there are times when we meet people who we think are genuine and make us feel good to be around at the time, yet we gain nothing spiritually or emotionally by having them around, for all they do is take up space and time in our life. And no matter how hard you try to force it; they are just not meant to be there. There is no place for them in your life and most times they cause more disturbances than good...(c)

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