Saturday, August 16, 2014

Why Feel Bad When People Leave or UN/DIS-LIKE?


Had to share this one! 

So I usually email my blogs to some of my friends and family whenever I post. Sometimes they comment, 99% of the time positively...this morning my friend Nigel told me that he did not like my post...when I asked why, this was his response!! 



"So basically


'LIke' no longer stands for that transient, impulse driven, non-permanent, often baseless, personal element of choice, expressed in relation to things like color, cars, design or even people and jokes. But 


'Like' seems to have become linked to a definition of character, a tool of craft for the great façade of our online persona, an ever-shifting metric of acceptance, the floating currency of popularity our trifling internet economy.


Alas, I will like what I like when I like it, and if I change what I like, I will reserve that right to do so without being harnessed to the choices and feelings of the moments past. I will not be made a liar by my former or future self but will remain a reflection of the now that I am, now!


UN-DIS-LIKE that"


Had to be a QRC boy! lol...I'm still laughing...

I was in fact feeling a bit offended since whenever I speak about God and spirituality, some persons from my facebook author's page or twitter account leave...why should I feel bad if a few ppl leave right? 

Silly me trying to please everybody...it's impossible to do I know! Not everyone is going to see things your way or like the things you like no matter how strongly you feel or try to convince them.

But such is life...I try not to make this a religious blog, as I know everyone has different beliefs, but every now and then I must pay homage to the source of my inspiration and give credit where credit is due. 

I cannot sacrifice my beliefs and convictions and walk on eggshells for those that do not owe their abundant blessings to a Higher Being...by whichever name you call Him...He is ominipotent, omnipresent, supreme.

Moral of the lesson & Note to self: Don't take things soo personally.
Thank you Nigel Roach!!

I do wish that you would stay though! If you wish to follow my journey on facebook or twitter, you can do so here: https://www.facebook.com/ThinkingoutLoudbyCarolynCorreia


My twitter handle is @lyncorr


Until next time,
Peace & Blessed Love


Nothing in Life Happens by Chance

Saw something earlier that said: Nothing in Life Happens by Chance. While I could not endorse everything, I had to add my own personal truths...which may differ from person to person and situation to situation. We all make choices every day that determine our reality. 

We were given free will to choose right or wrong, left or right...yes or no. When we deviate from this and move away from that inner voice (of God/Holy Spirit) that lives and speaks within all of us (depending on how well you nurture it) and act on a whim or fancy, we experience pain and displeasure. 

However, I agree that nothing in life happens by chance and for every (perceived) bad thing that happens to us, there is a silver lining and benefit(s) to be derived. 

Maybe something good happened despite the bad, maybe we learnt something about ourselves or others, maybe we've cultivated good memories, developed strength that we did not know we had, shared/healed ourselves or assisted those around us. 

Still yet in other cases, perhaps we were saved from something which could have had a worse outcome had we endured.

It's the weekend. While we're shedding our inhibitions and having fun, let's still remember to listen to that inner voice and make the right choices.

Even if we falter, it's all a part of life. What's important is that we learn the lessons, let go and move positively forward.

Peace & Love.

photo credit - Lake Ray Hubbard, Dallas Tx, C.K. Correia 2012 All rights reserved

Friday, August 15, 2014

How to Land Your Dream Job in 6 Ways




Useful for young professionals and to serve as a reminder to others.


It is said that once you find a job that you love, you will never have to work a day in your life. There has never been a statement that has resonated with more truth.


Here are some ways to get a head start if you’re just starting out on the job market or maybe simply looking to find your niche and purpose:


List it

First thing’s first: You must know what you like and don’t like. The first step is knowing yourself inside out. Sit quietly and do some soul searching. What kind of job do you like? Do you like to be in an office environment or out in the field? Do you like working with adults, children, animals or computer work?


Ask yourself what are your strengths and weaknesses and make a list of all your talents, abilities and passions. What would you do if money was not an issue and you did not have to work for a living? How would you spend your time in a meaningful way to help others?


I knew from an early age that I had a fascination with words. I can’t imagine life without the ability to write and pen my thoughts. I did not pursue it right away, but always found a way to channel my talents in the right direction.


Sooner or later, I found my way back to my first love. Although I have not hit the jackpot just yet, writing has exceeded my wildest expectations. I still have hopes of becoming a best-selling author one day.


Have a game plan



Once you have identified your talent, create some practical goals and work towards them one day at time. As you progress, you can widen your scope and take it up a notch.


For example, if you want to be a chemical engineer, you can work on taking those chemistry classes as early as high school. Volunteer at a lab during your summer vacations, enter competitions and take part in science fairs.


While in college, apply for internships where you can get to practice what you’ve studied. That way, after you graduate, it’s easier to get a job in your field with the hands–on training you’ve acquired while interning. Once you land that job, design a plan that will take you from point A to Z up the career ladder of your dreams.


Paper the world

Once you have developed a game plan, work on your career skills to get you an interview. Develop a winning résumé by a simple Google search. Whether you are just starting out, or simply want to change jobs, it’s important to market yourself in the right way.


In order to transition fields, you may want to adopt a functional, as opposed to a chronological, résumé; the former highlights all of your similar work experiences together. This is also useful if you have gaps in your employment record.


Visit company websites in your field and subscribe to job alerts. Sign up to employment agencies and participate in career seminars and job fairs at your campus.


Be sure to write a professional and descriptive cover letter that demonstrates your ability and personal attributes, and also sells the recruiter on why you are right for the job.


Think of yourself as a member of the HR department and think about what would make your résumé and cover letter stand out above the rest.


Look the part

Be sure to invest in a few well-tailored and professional power suits. Dark or neutral colors are best; stay clear from form-fitting, tight, short, shiny or revealing clothes. For the ladies, be sure to keep it simple: well-manicured nails, neat hairstyles and jewelry.


The same goes for the guys minus the jewelry. Cover up all tattoos and piercings. Remember you can only make a first impression once.


Walk the walk

Make sure you can look the part and talk the talk. Have you ever seen someone who looked very professional, but were mortified when he or she opened his or her mouth? Let this not be you when you walk into the room and the recruiter asks you a question.


Practice role playing with your friends or family. Let them ask you a few interview questions and talk freely about what comes naturally as opposed to rehearsed responses. Practice being calm and talk about what you know.


Be prepared to talk about anything, including your past job experiences, your extra-curricular activities and your ability to work extra hours.


Be courteous and speak standard English at all times. Always remember that no matter what the recruiter says, don’t get too comfortable or mistake kindness for friendship. I’ve seen everything during my years in human resources, and I’ll never forget one candidate who swore at the interview.

Hone your talents

During your job search and even after you land your dream job, never stop working on you. Whether it’s a short course, an advanced degree or diploma, it will all pay off in the long run, even though you may not appreciate it right now.


If you have a hobby or pastime, develop it. You could also volunteer in your spare time, even if it’s in a soup kitchen or reading to kids at the library.


All in all, it’s your life. Several years down the line, you don’t want to live with regret, thinking of what you should have done if only you had the guts to throw caution to the wind and take a chance on life. There’s no time like the present to do what your heart tells you to do and Make it Count.


Thursday, August 14, 2014

Have We Lost Touch by Constantly Staying in Touch?

I find myself in an intermittent state of procrastination of late. This is also so
not me. In the past when I wanted (to do) something, it barely had time to linger and germinate in my mind before my thoughts start racing and I put a plan into action to achieve my goal. That's just the way my mind works. So it baffles me what could be the root of this hesitation and stalling...I must have some kind of latent depression! lol....But I digress...
  

I just read a post on a friend's facebook profile a few seconds ago shortly after beginning this blog post. It went something like this (to paraphrase lest I offend some!): Make yourself happy because no one else really cares...My mind is such a complex over-thinking machine (at least that's what my friends tell me) that this simple, yet layered statement caused me to reflect on the many innuendoes and half truths even in my life. 

Before I hit the "like" button, I had to pause and determine what image this can potentially project. How can myself--a published inspirational writer/author and upcoming motivational speaker endorse and have such a dismal thought!? Easy: I am human. To use the words of Shakespeare with a modern day twist: I bleed and have feelings like everyone else. The important thing is that it remains only a fleeting, transient thought and emotion.

Needless to say, I did not hit like.

photo credit - Grafton Beach 2013 All rights reserved
For reasons of my own, I thought that I should set the example since some come to me for advice and look to me as a rock and beacon of hope, or so I'm told :-) Yikes! That's a huge standard to live up to; one in which I embrace and welcome. When did that happen? I guess ever since I can remember. Even persons I have only just met (both genders), feel comfortable enough to share and open up about their history and personal thoughts. 

What I would say is that we have to find and face the truths in our own lives that resonate with us for one reason or another. Recently I have had to re-evaluate the relationships in my life...the people that remain in my life to this day and the ones who did not survive (the storm and seasons)...some through no fault of my own. 

The close ones, the in-between ones and the ones that are just hanging by a thread. The ones whom I communicate with daily, the ones with whom I only communicate once in a while but are somehow still connected in thought, the ones who seek me out and vice versa and the ones that are barely there.

With so many ways to communicate nowadays and the many different levels of 'friendship' with the advent of facebook, twitter, whatsapp, google, youtube, LinkedIn, bbm, skype etc...have we lost touch by constantly staying  in touch???! It's so easy to 'spy' or check out what your friend is saying on social media: what they are wearing or eating today or if it's their birthday. If they are having a bad day or on top of the world...all this by not even talking to them. 

We forget telephone numbers and birthdays because the old fashioned way is long forgotten when we live in an age where everything is 'programmed' and built into our apps, computers and hand held devices instead of in our memories and hearts....(for this reason I removed my data from social media some years ago.)

And I ask myself for the ones that exist on the various echelons of 'friendship': are these healthy, authentic, two-way connections? Am I being treated how I want to be treated? Do I treat others how I would like to be treated? Am I too petty/nit-picky, spoilt, needy or intense for my own good? Did I in some way cause the ones that did not make it, to go away? And finally to end my tirade of open-ended questions: did I too hastily and abruptly end things with others in the past?

These are some questions that may also resonate with you. If I take a closer look, I know I have the answers to these questions at the tip of my tongue if only I have the courage to admit it to myself.

We all have our weaknesses. Some are able to discern, heal and chart a positive way forward. Others may be unable to recognize and own up to them even if they are point out by a third party. I am happy that I can step out of my little bubble and see myself from the outside daily as others would see me. It's not always easy to face the 'man' in the mirror, but it's the only way to improve and evolve. We are all a work in progress.

It's a skill that comes with practise and meditation over several years. Not some deep transcendental meditation or one with bells and chants (not to knock anyone's beliefs). But one of quiet stillness, reflection, introspection and prayer. Wait for it...the answers will come. Maybe not right away, but one day while you're driving down the highway or on the tube/subway, doing household chores, listening to music or chatting with a friend...trust me, it will come. When it does, it's important to embrace it with quiet acceptance and release.

Pray for guidance and a way forward. For healing and transformation. Change doesn't come overnight, but may take several years, retries and do-overs...but it's important to never give up and take it your Creator in prayer. Faith moves mountains. Sometimes we don't get a chance for a do-over when it comes to certain things and people, that's why it's important to remain grounded in the present and revel in all it's splendour for before you know it, this moment is gone...Poof! And there it goes...

For now, I accept, I embrace, I release as I find my centre once again and nip procrastination and all negativity in the bud!


Before I go, I must pay tribute to the oh so talented actor and comedian Robin Williams who made us laugh for decades. We remember how he make us laugh till we cried in Mrs. Doubtfire and other fabulous movies...it's sad how nobody knew his pain and couldn't do the same for him in his time of need.

I've observed how it is often some of the most creative and outgoing souls that are the ones who (silently) carry the most sadness inside. Your memory/legacy will live on through your movies...No one can ever take that away from you. Condolences to the family and friends of Mr. Robin Williams on his passing. May perpetual light shine upon him and may his soul Rest In Peace.


Peace & Love

Here and Now


Final sneak peek from my audio book. Location: Jolly Old England. 

As a product of the 21st century we have to ask ourselves: “Am I a product of this life? Or is this life my production: a production to behold and let unfold the way in which we would like?” 


ps excuse my amateur video skills! lol...last one...


Production is under way and it's just a few more days for delivery! Can't wait...Coming to local bookstores soon!


Hope you enjoy! Listen here: 




Friday, August 8, 2014

Mom: Am I Big Yet?

Another clip from my soon to be launched audio book of Thinking out Loud - Mom: Am I Big Yet? 
selected from Chapter 3: Family & Relationships

Photos shot in beautiful Grenada!



Enjoy!

Thursday, August 7, 2014

I'm Doing Me!

Hi, I'm a blogoholic and it's been 6 days since my last blog...

Ahhh....

I hate to admit it, but I've lost speed somewhere along the line which is soo unlike me...but I plan on fixing that right now. I'm re-thinking the direction of my blog. I think one of the areas I need to work on is to not let what other people say (or not say) consume me and pervade my being! 

For about a year sporadically a very close friend of mine have been telling me that I need to provide more personal anecdotes in my writing, as did a couple of my siblings over an extended period of time. When I did do that...somehow it did not feel right. I felt like deleting the blog post before anyone can see it! (Funny these are also the posts that I got the most feedback on :S )

I also found myself filtering my subscribers to only allow "certain" people to see my latest revelation and adventures and sharing it on only selected social media fora. Writing's not supposed to be like that...I know right?

Prior to this a few persons who bought my book on Amazon took the time to email as well as others who just came across my blog via facebook or google. Yet I still get bogged down by what other people think. 

Why is this you ask! Just trying to be a people pleaser I guess. After all I don't write in a vacuum just for my consumption. Recently I have been told by some of the same people that I share too much...ahhh the agony! My friend still maintains her view but to each his/her own.

For me writing is based on energy. If I feel good or inspired to write or vent...I do. I share what comes naturally and feels good in my heart. I don't necessarily think that a blog or inspirational writing should read like a diary, but rather an outlet for expression that is intended to help, inspire or motivate others. There must be a message to which others can identify. I agree that this must be illustrated by way of examples, but after perusing other blogs and books, this is not always the case and it does not necessarily have to be your own experiences. 

With that said...I have decided that I will turn inward and follow my heart and see where that leads. In this life, if you take time to listen to everyone you would be forever blowing to and fro in the wind like a palm tree. For too long I have allowed others to dictate my pace and from this moment on I have decided to make a conscious effort to think on my own, make my own decisions and just LET GO and DO ME. 

I must say that this week has been eventful. I had the opportunity to present my workshop for a couple friends and former colleagues and it exceeded my expectations...the feedback was overwhelming. They thought it to be a very valuable and inspiring eye-opener and gave me some useful tips to market it to all niche markets. It was so great re-connecting with old friends and sharing my passion! I felt immense peace and elation. 

I also met with an intellectual property attorney who again shared some valuable advice and tips on publishing, blogging and freelancing. To make things even better, I met a young man (Trinidadian) who is a translator living in Venezuela and writes poetry...this meeting took place when I took in an early movie by myself a few days ago. Interestingly enough he is also desirous of becoming a blogger and author. I have been waiting for the right moment to share with my readers that I am thinking of publishing an e-book which will be a collection of poetry...

I never thought that I could write poetry until now, because I thought that this was what only truly creative people do...until some experiences prompted me to pen my innermost thoughts and emotions so as to find my release and much needed healing and catharsis. Some years ago it was also suggested that I translate my book into another language. I will cross that bridge when I get to it!

I have been praying for a few months for God to send someone my way who can provide guidance on the form and structure of my poems and voila! As always my God provides! My new friend Shane also thinks that it was not by chance that we were the first two patrons in the cinema to see Think Like a Man Too.

Life is fraught with highs and lows...but it is only when we recognize the beauty in the simple things and gestures that we can bounce back and recover from the troughs...

Many other exciting things in the works...like the launch of my audio book in the next couple weeks...more workshop presentations...my non-profit work on the editing of a magazine, planning of events and much much more...I'm excited!

Hope your week was well spent and you Made it Count! Continue doing YOU!

As always if you can relate or have a question, please feel free to drop me a line in the contact form to the right of your page.

Until next time...

Peace & Blessed Love

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Friday, August 1, 2014

Happy August!

It seems that July is over :( As another month ends and we get ready to wind down the year, before we say gone too soon, let's recount all the highs and lows and give thanks for them all. Both the negatives and positives have contributed to the persons we are today. For all the July babies (including myself) as we reflect on the past year and all the many moments it has brought to our lives, let us look back with a smile and find the silver lining in every situation.

Even though things may have changed, we will always have our memories upon which to reflect. Each moment holds significance as it is filled with new lessons, joys, achievements, goals, milestones, even sorrow and disappoint for there is always something on which to build, improve and work towards. If you made a mistake, you now know better for next time. If you stumbled and fell, you can now get up, try again and take pride in your strength and commitment.



photo credit - CK Correia  © 2013 All rights reserved



As we look toward August and the remaining 5 months of the year, let us condition our minds and set the pace for achieving our goals. Let it be our best time yet. It is never too late to start over, make a plan, dream Big dreams and when you do: Dream to Win! This moment is ours forever to cherish...No one can ever take it away from us.


Goodbye July...Hullo and Welcome August!

Wishing you much enjoyment, sweet bliss, magical moments under the stars, peace, love and abundance as the holidays wind down...enjoy the kiddies/ "Me" time, snow cones/ice-cream...and warm weather and ... Remember to Make it Count~ xo

Peace & Love my loves,
Carolyn xoxo

Thursday, July 31, 2014

Forward Ever, Backward Never

I don't know why I am up at almost 2 am posting to my blog! I did not turn on my computer for the day and just when I thought I could survive the entire day without it: duty calls, one thing led to another and wham! I'm hooked :( 

photo credit - pinterest.com
I got my car back on Saturday so I've been out for most of the day taking care of that. For some reason, I've been really tired lately so I came back home and slept....and slept some more...waking up even more tired only to respond to some urgent emails that could not be done on my phone.

I came on to say only a few things: I just love to write! I guess that is clear. No matter how tired I am, I always find the energy to write. I can go for hours without sleep even if I've had a full day out at work or play. 

A few hours ago and even on the drive home, I was filled with this tremendous desire to CREATE! Oh my! It's in my blood. Then I suddenly remembered something someone told me a few weeks ago: "once you have a talent, you will never be broke!" I so appreciate the people I've been meeting these past few years...I feel such an affinity and connectivity to some of them. They are like me in some ways and I feed off of their energy and I hope vice versa. 

It's funny, some people will tell you and others will just admire you from afar...until one day your paths cross or something happens and they tell you to your face. When that happens, it's an amazing feeling, because I can't even believe it myself. It's like: "What did I do?! I was just being me:)"

What we sometimes don't realize is that we each have a story to tell. Sometimes it is our shared experiences that draw us closer together. When we open up and tell our story without fear of judgement, we realize that we all connected and can assist in offering (sometimes silent) support and liberation not only as women or men, but to all living people under the sun. It does not matter our nationality, ethnicity or geography, we are all the same underneath it all. We all bleed, hurt, shed tears and yearn for acceptance and oneness with ourselves and others. 

I recently realized this even more so when I hosted a staff function last year. Despite our differences, whether we get along or not, our stories intersect and we find peace and joy to hear that others experience the same things. It was amazing to witness the attentiveness and openness of staff members with their innermost thoughts and very private moments. I had never done anything like that before and I came up with the concept for the function on the spur of the moment. It exceeded my expectations: it was beauty personified. 

It was in that moment that I made the decision that this is what I should be doing with my life. It was only 5 months into my contract and it was as though bells went off in my head. I went home and sat on my porch with this immense feeling of satisfaction and fulfilment (and a silly grin on my face) as I blogged about it and retold the experience and revelations to my Mom and close friends who always called to check up on me. I did not have a plan exactly figured out as yet, but I knew this was my destiny. 

There's only 3 things that make me happy: writing, music, genuine, kindred spirits and well 4: food and good wine! Err 5? lol. Driving used to be one of them, but I realized after my accident that my car is not invincible. I've been driving for almost 20 years (wow!) and it's been more or less incident free....because of this I felt insulated in my trusty, comfortable car, fooled into a false sense of protection which is now beginning to crumble and cause anxiety. 

I now realize even more so that driving is hit and miss. You can be the most careful driver and because of someone else's recklessness, your life can be over in the bat of an eye. A friend of mine was telling me today that he witnessed an accident just the day before when a garbage truck was given a bad drive and crossed the median killing a whole family. He saw the gory details of the victims' demise when the top of their car was obliterated by the truck. Sighh. 

This is really sad and does nothing for my nerves especially when I saw it on social media a while ago. Yesterday as I drove for the first time since my accident in pouring rain again, it was like deja vu. I was going really really slow and trembling on the inside. It was very traumatizing. As the days go by, I am regaining my confidence as I am told I am a very good driver and this is unlike me. It still fills me with fear: the uncertainty of the black carpet which we traverse daily.

Such is life. Like my Guardian Angel told me last week (the guy who assisted me after the accident): You have to develop some mantras in life: Never look back. "Forward ever, backward never" (Maurice Bishop - Grenadian politician). LEAVE the past where it is and ask God for guidance and protection. Trust Him and leave it up to Him to protect you.

Well said Kurt. I owe you my life. 

Until next time, be safe and remember to Make it Count. xo